Notes on self discovery and building self love

Does Time, as it passes, really destroy?

Does Time, as it passes, really destroy? It may rip the fortress from its rock; but can this heart, that belongs to God, be torn from Him by circumstances? Are we as fearfully fragile as Fate would have us believe? Can we ever be severed from childhood’s deep...

What is “Seeking the gaze”?

Love & intimacy

“Admit something: Everyone you see, you say to them, “Love me.” Of course you do not do this out loud; otherwise, someone would call the cops. Still though, think about this, this great pull in us to connect. Why not become the one who lives with a full moon in each...

I would like to sing someone to sleep

Poetry

“I would like to sing someone to sleep, to sit beside someone and be there. I would like to rock you and sing softly and go with you to and from sleep. I would like to be the one in the house who knew: The night was cold. And I would like to listen in and listen out...

Cultivating Joy! A morning playlist

Joy, Waking up

Joy! It’s not something I would naturally associate with practising, or that I think of as a thing to work at. A bit like love, it’s almost as though we consider joy as something unexpected that happens upon us in life. Like it cannot be planned for, or created. Like...

Oh how I long for black and white problems

Reminders to self, Waking up

I wrote this a few months back as I was spending time caring for my dad who had just started chemo. It was a very difficult time full of love and sadness and fear and private rage at life. I had completely forgotten I wrote it until I came across it tidying up some...

“What’s wrong with me?”

Belonging, Waking up

Sometimes when I get a flash of the thought “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why can’t I do that like everyone else?” or some other such comparison, I try to remember myself that there are an estimated 7,714,576,923 other humans in the...

Do less. Be more.

Finding my way back to home, Ponderings, Presence, Reminders to self, Waking up

A new(-ish) year’s resolution It’s not new year, but it’s still early enough in the year to allow oneself to create a “new year’s” resolution. And in that vein I have decided on a new new(-ish) year’s resolution: Do Less. Do less. Expect less of myself. Halt all...

Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing the best you can.

Audio resources, Inner critic, Reminders to self

This reminds me of something Brene Brown said in a free audio book chapter she gave way from her new book Rising Strong. It’s a great listen if you’re trying to drift off to sleep as Brene narrates herself, and her tone is smooth and relaxing. Get the download here:...

Everything is going to be ok…

Core survival skills, Finding my way back to home, Reminders to self

Don’t wait until the shit really hits the fan to begin…. It’d be easy to decide someone is a “strong” person, or not “strong. That resilience is a thing a person “has”, or does not have, or that coping/mental/emotional...

I am more than my imperfections #findingMyWayBackToHome

Reminders to self, Resources

Self work on the plane Sometimes I find travelling time the best time to reflect. Doing some work with Brene Browns free worksheets (under downloads on her website). Something on one of the sheets helped me become aware of how severely I tend to judge myself in times...